“I, too, am a painter.” — Antonio da Correggio (photo by Author)

Last fall, I participated in an amazing online journey called Transformational Teaching Online. TTO is a beautiful exploration of the power and practice of presencing. It models how to hold transformational space online and is led by two now dear friends, Natasha and Lorenz Sell, creators of a platform for online courses and a collective of heart-centered creators called Sutra. It is an experience I highly recommend, one that has a profound impact on how I show up and how I offer my gifts to the world.

We Are Each a Living Breathing Work of Art

In one of the TTO experiences, we were invited into a pair breakout…

“Our feelings are our most genuine paths to knowledge.” — Audre Lorde

Navigating Emotions by Candlelight

Several months ago, I was hosting a Contagious Vulnerability room on Clubhouse. We were having a rich conversation about navigating big emotions. Lydia, a frequent participant who I’ve come to love and appreciate for her wisdom, shared a beautiful practice she uses with her young daughter when something troubles her. They light a special candle and then sit down next to each other on the couch. She holds her daughter, letting her know that she’s there for her and will sit with her as she experiences her emotions. If her daughter wants to talk about it, she’s there to listen…

“My soul is full of longing for the secret of the sea.
And the heart of the great ocean sends a thrilling pulse through me.”
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow —
(Photo Credit: Doran Beach, by Author)

I am grateful to my beloved ancient mariner father for so many things. He has given me countless gifts in this precious lifetime. One of his greatest gifts to me is his love of the sea — second only to that of my life itself. In fact, “My Old Man and the Sea” would make a great title for our soul’s journey together.

Wave Jumping

As I shared in Finding Your Keel: How to Stay Grounded and Centered in Turbulent Times, my Dad introduced me to his great love at a very young age. One of my earliest memories of the sea…

This is me.
True contagious vulnerability.
No filters, no makeup.
Drenched with rainwater.
Floating in a sailboat on the sea.
My #happyplace.
The calm in the storm.

The shy little girl with the wild, untamable, white-blond curls that I introduced you to in “But Wait There’s More! So Much More! Secrets to a Life Well Loved”. That little girl — Katherine or Mousey Mouse as I was known then — spent a lot of her childhood at sea. Both literally and metaphorically.

My Early Life Aquatic

Growing up as the daughter of a naval aviator and navigator who loved the ocean, my earliest and fondest memories took place in and on the sea. …

Your Trusted Guide for Navigating Vulnerability, Finding Your Voice, Deepening Your Relationships, and Birthing Your Authentic Self

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy — the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”
Brene Brown

As I type this piece, I’m feeling the same mix of fear and exhilaration as I did when I published my first ever Medium piece two years ago, courageously declaring to the world that “I am…Contagious Vulnerability!”. A bold declaration that drew a lot of attention and celebration as well as a few quizzical “huhs?”.

A bold declaration that felt so authentic, so true — and so liberating and empowering to say out loud — and yet simultaneously filled me with more than a little fear and self-doubt as I bared my soul’s essence to the world in my biggest…

A Mindfulness Practice for Mental Wellness

“The things that matter most in our lives are not fantastic or grand. They are moments when we touch one another.” — Jack Kornfield

Ten and a half months ago, at the dawning of a new year and new decade, I left the known multiverse of my being and courageously dove into the vast sea of the unknown with the intention of bringing Contagious Vulnerability — the startup of me — to life in the world. Not really having a clue as to what that really meant.

When I started this journey, Contagious Vulnerability was more potential than actual. More unknown than known. More like a mantra than a felt or lived experience. …

Following the Wisdom of the Heart for a Life Well-Loved

“And now here is my secret, a very simple secret: It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.”
Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Little Prince

A Life Well-Loved

A little over 2 years ago, I found myself at Wisdom 2.0, a mindfulness conference in San Francisco, listening to Frank Ostaseski, founder of the Zen Hospice Project. In his decades of service, he’s sat at the bedsides and borne compassionate witness to the deaths of countless individuals facing their final moments in the earthly realm. He told us: “At the end of our lives, only two things matter. Was I loved and did I love well?”

“At the end, only two things matter. Was I loved and did I love well?” — Frank Ostaseski

I sat there in the…

The Secrets to a Life Well Loved

My Uncle-Not-Uncle Sir Francis Thurlow Cuming-Bruce on his 100th Birthday
My Uncle-Not-Uncle Sir Francis Thurlow Cuming-Bruce on his 100th Birthday
“And above all, watch with glittering eyes the whole world around you because the greatest secrets are always hidden in the most unlikely places. Those who don’t believe in magic will never find it.”
Roald Dahl (Photo by Author)

I was a shy little girl of about 8 or 9 with wild, untameable white-blond curls. It was the early 70s and haircare innovators had not yet blessed the world with the gift of leave-in conditioner. My curly, unruly mop vacillated between awkwardly straightened and a feral frizz, a source of many tears and more than a few tantrums.

I walked into the bedroom I shared with my sister, the disruptive, mischievous Pain to my Great One. There I found my beloved Uncle Francis, who was visiting us from England. …

“In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer. And that makes me happy. For it says that no matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there’s something stronger — something better, pushing right back.” — Albert Camus

The funk that prompted me to share “I’m Not OK — You’re Not OK” two weeks ago persists, a low-pressure system continuing to cloud my inner landscape. I’ve found myself haunted by my mother’s ghost, plagued by fears that I might follow in her footsteps, the lightness of the first half of my life giving way to darkness in the second.

I’m around the same age as she was when her descent into madness began, triggered a perfect storm of major life events: the onset of menopause, the death of her father, and the end of her life’s work and…

“These things will be hard, but you can do hard things.” — Glennon Doyle

I’m not OK.

You’re not OK.

We are not OK.

I know, this sounds dark. Because it is. Because things are super dark in our world right now. Growing darker with each grain of sand that passes through the hourglass of the year that is 2020.

For those of you who are just tuning in and those for whom this weekly series is a source of hope and positivity when all seems dark, I hope you’ll bear with me and hear me out.

I’m sharing this because it’s what’s true for me. And if I’m feeling this way, maybe you…

Kate Joy Greer :)

Writer. Transformation Agent. Catalyst for Finding Joy Within. Voice of Contagious Vulnerability. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 Learn more at www.contagiousvulnerability.com

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