PinnedMember-onlyMe and My Shadow: From Boxing to Dancing to WholenessToday marks 15 years since my beloved mother, Wendy, took the A Train to the spirit realm, ending her life and forever changing the course of mine. It was Mother’s Day 2008. Her final, violent act of self-determination — of self-liberation really — was as bold and unexpected as it…Mothers7 min readMothers7 min read
Jun 23, 2022Member-onlyIt’s Pride 2022 And It’s Like High School All Over AgainI don’t know about you but Pride Month 2022 has been an emotional rollercoaster for me. And we’re talking a Kingda Ka level ride. I am quite literally feeling ALL the feels. At times all at once. For so many reasons. The most major being that it’s my first real…Coming Out6 min readComing Out6 min read
Apr 18, 2022Member-onlyBeing with What Is: Having the Courage to Go DeeperThis started out as a newsletter, an update to people in my network of beloveds after a period of quiet darkness. A blue period I only alluded to obliquely and wrapped in my signature rose colored, “don’t worry, I got this”, optimism (as evidence, see photo above). An experience that…Vulnerability8 min readVulnerability8 min read
Mar 2, 2022Member-onlyThe Things We Do for Love: My Past Wife ExperienceOur twin flame burned bright. We’re talking supernova bright. We lit up the world around us — and everyone who came into our orbit — as we joy bombed our way through a life we lived on 11. We were going to infinity and beyond, baby! …Personal Growth10 min readPersonal Growth10 min read
Feb 14, 2022Member-onlyWe Are All Polyamorous: Why Not Love the Ones You’re WithHow is your heart on this day that we celebrate love? Are you feeling love or lack? For many, Valentine’s Day can challenge our mental wellness, bringing loneliness and depression rather than chocolate, roses, and candlelit dinners for two. February 14th can feel like a day we celebrate one kind…Love5 min readLove5 min read
Feb 11, 2022Member-onlyTaming and Befriending the Voices in Our HeadsWhat’s your relationship to the voices in your head? Is your inner voice one of encouragement like a best friend or trusted advisor? Or is it a bully who torments and belittles you, making you feel less than? Or maybe it’s squirrel or monkey-like in nature, a source of constant…Mental Health7 min readMental Health7 min read
Jan 9, 2022Member-onlyHow Do You Want to Feel in 2022? An Invitation to Slow Down and SavorWhat’s on your heart as this new year dawns? I hope 2022 — or, as I’m currently calling it, 2020.2 …Personal Growth7 min readPersonal Growth7 min read
Dec 21, 2021Member-onlyAre We Really Languishing? An Invitation to Dolce Far NienteIn his New York Times op-ed, There’s a Name for the Blah You’re Feeling: It’s Called Languishing, psychologist Adam Grant makes the case that on our pandemic odyssey we’ve moved from acute anguishing to long-haul languishing. Languishing, “the neglected middle child of mental health, can dull your motivation and focus…Mental Health7 min readMental Health7 min read
Dec 13, 2021Member-onlyFinding the I in the Storm: My Year of Storm ChasingIt was happening again. The now all too familiar loss of equilibrium. A disturbance in the force that lifts me from my grounded center like a tornado repossessing a house from its foundations in a dizzying, disorienting spiral. Intense emotions start to transform my inner landscape, turning a grounded calm…Self Discovery7 min readSelf Discovery7 min read
Mar 5, 2021Member-onlyLife as Art: This is 55Last fall, I participated in an amazing online journey called Transformational Teaching Online. TTO is a beautiful exploration of the power and practice of presencing. It models how to hold transformational space online and is led by two now dear friends, Natasha and Lorenz Sell, creators of a platform for…Life Lessons5 min readLife Lessons5 min read